Are You an Unemployed Dad?

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May 24, 2012

babbo

Lives in: Madison, WI
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Are you a dad who’s currently unemployed, or underemployed?

I’ve been there, too.

Even if we were unhappy with our job (which many people seem to be), if it was paying the bills it is greatly missed once it’s gone.

If you’re an unemployed dad, it’s important to remember that your lack of employment does not define who you are. You are still the same man, with the same potential for growth and improvement as a parent, a dad and a professional. Being out of work doesn’t change this fact – unless you let it.

When you’re unemployed, feelings of helplessness can be overwhelming when you’re unable to provide for your family – especially when the situation drags on for months or years. With bills piling up, and no solution in site, what’s a dad to do?

Look for the positive.

In order to do this, you might need to look beyond your current situation, which might be pretty depressing, and start setting goals for where you want to be. The more we’re able to focus on the positive the more likely we are to bring that future into reality. If we remain focused on despair, we will sink ever deeper into the problems of today.

What About Today?
It’s also important to acknowledge what’s positive today. Whether it’s your awesome kids, your spouse, your health, or simply having a good friend, finding the positive aspects you currently have in your life is important.

Having trouble focusing on the positive? Sometimes asking the following question can help.

What’s the worst thing that could happen?

This may not seem like a mood lifter at first, but you might be surprised at how you feel after answering it. After facing the fear of the worst-case scenario, there’s a good chance things won’t look quite as bad as you originally thought.

Still Feeling Down?
Ask for help. Speak with someone in your life that you can trust to offer support. If you don’t have anybody, or your negative feelings are just too much to bear, get professional help. Find a local support group, or meet with a psychologist or psychiatrist. If you belong to a church, you may be able to find help there. You can also speak with your physician who may be able to point you in the right direction.

Remember, there’s nothing to be ashamed of if you need help. The important thing is to get out of the hole you’re in, not dig deeper into it.

No matter where you’re at, not matter how bad it seems, please don’t lose hope.

And remember, you are not alone …

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